Coping With the Loss of a Loved One

You lost someone you loved, someone you cherished. But the tears that were supposed to come just didn’t. Or maybe, you cried your heart out, and it still seems like it wasn’t enough.

Dealing with death isn’t easy in the best of times. So if you’re going through this, keep in mind that this is your personal journey. Take the time you need to work through your grief and resolve your trauma. IF there’s one thing you shouldn’t do, it’s ignoring and busily moving past your loss.

The Struggles of Dealing with Grief

Pretending as if everything is fine blocks one from feeling emotions that serve to move you into healing; however, when we are busy and distract from our grievances, they will resurface repeatedly until embraced. It’s worthwhile to be vulnerable and to feel helpless, because the truth is, that’s the most sincere emotion we can feel. Grief is the one emotional story we have absolute no control over, which makes it one of the hardest to move through. Yet is is a powerful important lesson of our humanity, once surrendered into. You don’t have control over everything, and that’s alright. The worst thing you can do is let that simmer inside you.

You are human. You’re meant to feel and experience emotion, however don’t let shock push you into an emotional dungeon. Learning how to work and accept our humanness is essential. Remembering the much-spoken phrase, time heals all wounds, works well for grief. As there are many layers of grief, and it will take time for all of this to move through you. Allow yourself that time, being present and patient throughout every moment. True healing cannot be rushed.

Accepting Support 

There will be a lot of people who will offer their support. But think before leaning on their shoulder.

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Grief is a complex emotion; not everyone can handle it properly. They may want to be there to support you, but they might not know how to, which might lead to some awkwardness, not to mention moments where they may say something insensitive.

If this happens, do not take offense. Just understand that they’re not in the same mind-frame as you. They might not be able to understand what you’re going through. Don’t push them away. Sometimes, just having someone nearby is enough, and simply being witnessed in your despair is a powerful means of moving the many qualities of energy that grief contains.

If they’re also grieving with you, and say something that’s unpleasant, do not try to escalate the situation. Just like you, they’re also navigating many fluctuations of emotion. You both need each other’s support, now more than ever.

Breaking through the Wall 

At some point, you’ll feel exhausted by grieving. You’ll feel overwhelmed, like you’ve tried your best and you want to move on, but you can’t run away from it.

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You may feel overwhelmed because your mind has finally registered the shock. Take this time to really meet your needs and work on your mental, physical and spiritual well-being. Your body may go through many illness’s as a means to help communicate your grief. Treat yourself with love and compassion.

Finally, Don’t get sucked into guilt or fear of moving on. You will not forget that person. You are allowed to live your life.

Do you need help healing your grief? I’m here to help you.

Seek a certified spiritual therapist Denver; go for spiritual healing services. Use these sessions to work through your emotions, taking this valuable time to process and grow from your past relationships and present loss... Let this be a method of catharsis and invaluable transformation.

Most importantly, learn to live again. Live fully and allow yourself to be happy. Your loved one would want this for you.

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Kari Rivers